Hello everyone! I hope you're all doing well!
I've not done a mental health type post for what seems like a while but I feel like out of the content I write, they are the most important.
In this post, I'm going to be talking about difficulties with anxiety and difficulties which may not be understood by others who perhaps may not deal with things like it.
I'll start off pretty simply by saying things are not as easy as they seem. I mean that in the sense that, some things can be more difficult for other people to do, other things that people who don't suffer with anxiety or any other kind of mental illness or hidden condition may not find difficult or can do with ease. It's extremely frustrating to feel that way or to feel that things take a lot more effort and power when they don't for others. It's kind of like you're always alert and never really get to properly shut down and unwind because even the things which are supposed to be fun and unwinding cause "anxiety" and that's something I regret to say happens to me. I love going out and about and doing stuff and to be honest, living, but it ain't half tricky sometimes! And it's not the way it's supposed to be and it's not the way I want it, but I have keep pushing myself on and seeing how I feel, whether I think I can face that today, whether I will be able to face it, whether I can even put myself in that scenario.
I've written a list of some of the things which can be particularly tricky for some:
* Travelling on public transport
* Eating out at a restaurant
* Meeting friends
* Doctors/dentist appointments
* School lessons/lectures
* Talking on the phone
* Asking for help in shops
* Going to a concert or show
* The cinemas
* Going on holiday
* Busy crowds/queues
* Environments where it's hard to "leave"
All these things I love (well excluding a few!) however regrettably and through no way I wish it to be, I do struggle with these things. I feel like sometimes people assume that anxiety only affects things that you maybe don't want to do or things that are "boring" and forget that they can just as easily affect things that you want to do and that you need to do.
There's no way I would choose to feel anxious meeting my friends to go for a meal or travelling on a public transport coach (REALLY struggle with that) but the truth is I can't help it and not being able to help it is the worst part.
The truth is anxiety DOES make everything 10 times harder and therefore you're often 10 times more tired because you are working double hard to do everything you do and sometimes it just doesn't feel like much of a achievement. But it really is. I'm guilty of not praising or giving myself a break for something which I usually struggle with and managing to do it (or managing to do it without too much damage being done!)
Basically what I'm trying to get across in this post is to be open and understanding about what others may find difficult. Please. You have no idea how much courage the person is already using up and they don't need any more pressure from others making them feel stupid or weird because they find some things difficult or harder.
Please be open to any adjustments they may wish you to make, it's not something they're choosing to do for a laugh, it may make a real difference in how the situation or event affects them.
I just wanted to put it out there that even what may seem the simplest to someone, could be really difficult or scary for someone else. That's the thing about mental illnesses or hidden conditions, everybody is different and everyone has their own strengths and their own weaknesses and may not be able to find some things very easy to complete. But that doesn't mean they can't do it, they just struggle and may not always be able to do things at that point, some days are easier than others. Please note that everyone has their own abilities and if others take longer to do certain tasks or to feel more comfortable doing things then it's OKAY! Make them feel comfortable! I just feel like people need to be aware of the fact that especially for me, anxiety can make day to day things very difficult and sometimes I may feel like I can't do things or may need small adjustments to get me through and to make things a little easier from the fact my whole body is working ten times harder trying to get me through.
Also please share to others who you may feel may benefit from this post and I hope you reading this, right now are in a good place and feel cherished and stress-free. Anxiety does make things even we wish not to be more difficult and that's unfair but you must take care of yourself and take care for what you need.
Thank you so much for reading, as always!
Love & hugs,